Loving Money: the Podcast with Leisse Wilcox

006: How Summer Break Devalues Women

In this podcast episode, we delve into the idyllic vision of summer that many of us grew up with, comparing it to the often more complex reality we experience today. We'll explore the historical origins of the summer break for children and how the world of education has evolved since then, prompting us to reconsider whether it's still a suitable model for today's families.

 

Join us as we discuss how changes in the way children learn and the demands of modern life impact parents. We'll also explore the idea that what's not working for children might not be working for parents either, and why it's becoming increasingly unrealistic for parents to have their kids at home for a full two months.

 

But it's not just about problems – I want to hear from you too! Share your thoughts and experiences on this topic, and let's consider the possibility of moving away from the traditional summer model to create a more balanced and fulfilling summer for everyone involved.

We talk about:

• [0:00] Intro
• [4:55] The vision of the summer we were sold vs. the actuality of it
• [6:40] History of why our children have a summer break
• [8:00] How the world has changed and how children are learning now in school
• [11:00] If it's not a good model for children, it's not a good model for parents
• [13:20] Why it isn’t realistic for parents to have kids at home for two months
• [16:40] I want to hear from you on this topic
• [17:30] Moving away from the traditional summer model
  
  

Resources mentioned in this episode:

 

• Charge What You’re Worth: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64a5ecb5349daf2cf867bccb
• Loving Money Course: https://leissewilcox.com/loving-money
  
  

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVAcBbERnSAW0V4R58uqxLQ?
• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/leissewilcox/
• Website: https://leissewilcox.com/

005: The Toxic Money Stories we Tell Ourselves

Welcome back to Loving Money, dear listener! After a short hiatus, I am excited to return and delve into the intricate relationship we share with money. In this episode, we talk about that pesky, toxic money story we tell ourselves.

As you’ll hear, I open up about the less-explored aspects of my financial journey. Our connection with money goes beyond mere transactions; it's a deep-rooted emotional and psychological journey, with complexities often overwhelming to break apart. Together, we will explore how to foster a healthy relationship with money at the core.

I believe in confronting the shadowy corners of our financial experiences to uncover valuable lessons, and I'll discuss how this process has unfolded in my life.

Like many of us, family dynamics play a pivotal role in shaping our beliefs about money, often setting expectations that influence our decisions. I'll share my personal encounter with these dynamics, including the contrasting lives of my step sisters and our upbringings. Through these stories, we'll understand the diversity of money's impact on our future, and what we believe we are worthy of having.

As we journey into the past, we'll explore how my upbringing sculpted my money-related beliefs, which in turn influenced various facets of my life. These belief systems are not isolated; they have a significant impact on our sense of security and stability, which I'll delve into.

What’s your money story? I encourage you to reflect on your own relationship with it, as we will unravel the unique ways your relationship with money manifests in your life.

I am thrilled to embark on this new chapter of Loving Money and continue having raw and candid conversations about money's role in our lives. Remember, your money story is yours to rewrite, no matter the point you're at. Let’s get into the art of Loving Money.

We talk about:

• [0:00] Intro
• [1:30] How to start loving money
• [3:00] The shadow side of my own relationship to money
• [10:00] Family expectations of what I should pay for growing up
• [11:45] The contrast of my step sisters’ lives
• [15:10] The beliefs I developed about money stemming from my upbringing
• [18:05] How this belief structure affected my sense of safety and security
• [21:00] What happens when we let our money stories guide us
• [23:10] How do your money stories show up in your life?
  
  

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Charge What You’re Worth: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64a5ecb5349daf2cf867bccb
  
  

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVAcBbERnSAW0V4R58uqxLQ?
• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/leissewilcox/
• Website: https://leissewilcox.com/

004: Meet Money, my new boyfriend

Ready to see money in a new, loving light? The opposite of playing small is expansion. To expand your relationship with all humanity, the fundamental place to start is your relationship with money. What if we stop thinking of money as intangible numbers in our bank accounts and start to think of money as a person? Imagine if money was your boyfriend called Paul. What kind of relationship do you have with Paul? Is it healthy? Or is it toxic? How would Paul describe his relationship with you? Once you have both perspectives, you can think about what your dream relationship looks like. Humanize your relationship with money. 

 

This episode I discuss:  

 

• You expand your relationship to yourself and humanity by starting with your relationship with money.
• Money is a construct that we made up, and is a great stressor in our life due to past stories we’ve been told. 
• A vital exercise I do with all my clients to help them humanize their relationship to money.
• Bring the unconscious to the conscious to change the storyline for yourself.
• How to have a healthy, supportive, co-creative relationship to money.

 

Let’s stay connected: 

 

My website: https://leissewilcox.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox-197a31112/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/ 

003: Money is something we made up

Money is a big stressor in our lives. And it's something that's dominating women's mental health and causing heaps of anxiety. If it's not the gender pay gap, it's that people are graduating from uni with $70k debt but struggle to land an entry level job. The patriarchy constantly tells us that there is not enough money, so we stop being in pursuit of making more. But really, money is finite, and I believe you can always create more of it. And that's what I talk about in this episode of my podcast. 

 

I discuss:  

 

• How money is one of our greatest stressors.
• Money is used as a metric to gauge someone’s success. 
• When we have a secure sense of self we tend to make more money.
• That money is finite and that you can always create more of it. 
• How the patriarchy controls the financial narrative. 

 

Let’s stay connected: 

 

My website: https://leissewilcox.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox-197a31112/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/ 

002: Your Relationship to Money

Is the thought of money keeping you up at night? Perhaps you're fully content. Maybe it's not something you think about because you know it'll negatively impact your mood and decision making. A healthy relationship with money is the ONLY way forward. How you think, feel and talk about money says a lot about your mindset and is something that can seriously impact your life. There are three common relationships: avoidant, obsessed and healthy. In this episode, I'll talk in detail about how the three key relationships affect you and how you can change your outlook towards money by changing how you talk and think. Our unconscious mind believes whatever story we tell ourselves. But, we have the power to change the lens we look through.

 

This episode I discuss:  

 

• How attachment theory can relate to money in different ways. 
• How most people have a scarcity mindset when thinking about money.
• What the consequences are if you don’t grow up in a household where money is spoken about in a healthy way. 
• Questions you can ask yourself to reflect on your relationship with money. 
• That you can change the narrative you have created around money by changing the lens that you look through. 

 

Let’s stay connected: 

 

My website: https://leissewilcox.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox-197a31112/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/ 

001: My Why

How would earning 6 figures make you feel? Statistics show that only 25% of women who make this amount feel safe, secure and confident. Now I'm on a mission to boost this number. I'm one of the 9% who makes six figures, and I got to where I am while being a single parent and going through chemotherapy and an expensive divorce. For as long as I remember, I've been helping my clients increase their revenue. Even when women came to me to improve their relationship with themselves, they also increased their self-worth and net worth. And that's why I'm here — to help you close the gap between the two. 

 

This episode I discuss: 

 

• What first got me interested in teaching women about money. 
• What my own journey was like as a six figure business owner. 
• How everyone I work with increases their revenue, even if they don’t come to me for business coaching. 
• The importance of healing our past. 

 

Let’s stay connected: 

 

My website: https://leissewilcox.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leisse-wilcox-197a31112/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leissewilcox/